Is your family a “shoot the messenger” family?

This something I’m familiar with.

Growing up in a cult, “shoot the messenger” behavior was the default reaction.

As a parent, I’ve had to work long and hard to ensure ours is not a “shoot the messenger” family; that the person who discovers fraud, abuse, and other difficult to swallow facts isn’t the problem, but rather the people who perpetrated the fraud, waste, or otherwise.

To see this requires honesty, integrity, courage, and a willingness to connect the dots.

It’s not easy, but it’s really the only way forward.

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2 thoughts on “Is your family a “shoot the messenger” family?

  1. Yes, we tend to default to a “shoot the messenger” approach when our closely-held beliefs are challenged and an open, curious mind isn’t part of our life journey tool kit. It is much easier to get rid of the bearer of new information.

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